John Mordechai Gottman's book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Mordechai Gottman, Nan Silver

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                     According to most relationship books, the key to a solid marriage is
                     communication, communication, communication. Phooey, says John
                     Gottman, Ph.D., author of the much-lauded Why Marriages Succeed or
                     Fail. There's much more to a solid, "emotionally intelligent" marriage than
                     sharing every feeling and thought, he points out--though most couples
                     therapists ineffectively (and expensively) harp on these concepts.

                     Gottman, the director of the Gottman Institute, has found through
                     studying hundreds of couples in his "love lab" that it only takes five
                     minutes for him to predict--with 91 percent accuracy--which couples will
                     eventually divorce. He shares the four not-so-obvious signs of a troubled
                     relationship that he looks for, using sometimes amusing passages from his
                     sessions with married couples. (One standout is Rory, the pediatrician
                     who didn't know the name of the family dog because he spent so much
                     time at work.)

                     Gottman debunks many myths about divorce (primary among them that
                     affairs are at the root of most splits). He also reveals surprising facts
                     about couples who stay together. They do engage in screaming matches.
                     And they certainly don't resolve every problem. "Take Allan and Betty,"
                     he writes. "When Allan gets annoyed at Betty, he turns on ESPN. When
                     Betty is upset with him, she heads for the mall. Then they regroup and go
                     on as if nothing's happened. Never in forty-five years of marriage have
                     they sat down to have a 'dialogue' about their relationship." While this
                     may sound like a couple in trouble, Gottman found that they pass the
                     love-lab tests and say honestly that "they are both very satisfied with their
                     relationship and they love each other deeply."

                     Through a series of in-depth quizzes, checklists, and exercises, similar to
                     the ones he uses in his workshops, Gottman provides the framework for
                     coping with differences and strengthening your marriage. His profiles of
                     troubled couples rescued from the brink of divorce (including that of
                     Rory, the out-of-touch doctor) and those of still-happy couples who
                     reinvigorate their relationships are equally enlightening. --Erica
                     Jorgensen

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                     Book Description of John Mordechai's book The Seven Principles for
                     Making Marriage Work by John Mordechai Gottman, Nan Silver
                     Just as Masters and Johnson were pioneers in the study of human
                     sexuality, so Dr. John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage.
                     As a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and the
                     founder and director of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute, he has
                     studied the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over the
                     course of many years. His findings, and his heavily attended workshops,
                     have already turned around thousands of faltering marriages.
 
                     This book is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that
                     guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting
                     relationship. Straightforward in their approach, yet profound in their
                     effect, these principles teach partners new and startling strategies for
                     making their marriage work. Gottman helps couples focus on each other,
                     on paying attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung
                     together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Being thoughtful
                     about ordinary matters provides spouses with a solid foundation for
                     resolving conflict when it does occur and finding strategies for living with
                     those issues that cannot be resolved.
 
                     Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been
                     proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, The Seven Principles for
                     Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants
                     their relationship to attain its highest potential.

                     The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the result of Dr. John
                     Gottman's many years of closely observing thousands of marriages. This
                     kind of longitudinal research has never been done before. Based on his
                     findings, he has culled seven principles essential to the success of any
                     marriage.

                       1.Maintain a love map.
                       2.Foster fondness and admiration.
                       3.Turn toward instead of away.
                       4.Accept influence.
                       5.Solve solvable conflicts.
                       6.Cope with conflicts you can't resolve.
                       7.Create shared meaning.

                     Dr. Gottman's unique questionnaires and exercises will guide couples on
                     the road to revitalizing their marriage, or making a strong one even better.

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                     Synopsis of John Mordechai's book The Seven Principles for Making
                     Marriage Work by John Mordechai Gottman, Nan Silver
                     America's preeminent relationship expert shares the results of his
                     revolutionary findings to show couples how to create an emotionally
                     intelligent relationship and keep it on track.

                     From the Back Cover of John Mordechai's book The Seven Principles for
                     Making Marriage Work by John Mordechai Gottman, Nan Silver
                     "I guarantee this book is ground-breaking, and it will produce a huge
                     harvest of satisfied couples who not only stay together but enjoy a truly
                     satisfying marriage."
                     --Gary T. Smalley, author of Making Love Last Forever

                     "An excellent and practical book . . . If you are contemplating marriage:
                     read this book--it will save you a lot of mistakes and heartache. If your
                     marriage feels stale: read this book--it will create new emotional depth
                     and pleasure in your daily life together. And if your marriage is in trouble:
                     read this book and gain new hope in the resilience of your relationship
                     and the possibilities for not just saving your marriage but turning it into
                     something wonderful."
                     --Pepper Schwartz, author of Love Between Equals: How Peer
                     Marriage Really Works

                     "What a breath of fresh air! This is one of a unique breed: where the
                     scientist is also the wise clinician--an irresistible combination that not only
                     reads well but contains profound wisdom that will solve the deep, dark
                     mysteries of marriage."
                     --Neil Jacobson, Ph.D., author of Acceptance and Change: A
                     Therapist's Guide for Transforming Relationships
 
 

John Mordechai Gottman's book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Mordechai Gottman, Nan Silver