Is Marriage Right For You?

<body topmargin=0 leftmargin=0 marginheight=0 marginwidth=0><script type="text/javascript" src="http://hb.lycos.com/hb.js"></script> <script type="text/javascript" src="http://ratings.lycos.com/ratings/lycosRating.js.php"></script> <script type="text/javascript"><![CDATA[//><!]]></script> <script type="text/javascript" src="http://scripts.lycos.com/catman/init.js"></script> <script type="text/javascript" src="http://members.tripod.com/adm/ad/code-start.js"></script> <script type="text/javascript" src="http://members.tripod.com/adm/ad/code-middle.js"></script> <script type="text/javascript" src="http://members.tripod.com/adm/ad/code-end.js"></script> <noscript> <img src="http://members.tripod.com/adm/img/common/ot_noscript.gif?rand=883037" alt="" width="1" height="1" />  <iframe frameborder="0" marginwidth="0" marginheight="0" scrolling="no" width="728" height="90" src="http://ad.yieldmanager.com/st?ad_type=iframe&ad_size=728x90&section=209094"></iframe>  </noscript> <table cellpadding=0 cellspacing=0 border=0><tr> <td valign="top" colspan=2 height=110 BGCOLOR="#666699" TEXT="#080000" bgproperties="fixed" background="04900840erlcjm.gif"> <div> <FONT SIZE="5" COLOR="#FFFFFF" FACE="Arial" ><B>QUESTIONS BEFORE MARRIAGE </b></FONT><B>     |     </b><A HREF="index.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="QUESTIONS BEFORE MARRIAGE "><U><B>home</b></U></A></div> <div> <A HREF="id23.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="About Us"><U>About Us</U></A>   |   <A HREF="id64.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="ChildFREE By Choice"><U>ChildFREE By Choice</U></A>   |   <A HREF="id25.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Contact Us"><U>Contact Us</U></A>   |   <A HREF="id55.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Dangerous Mates"><U>Dangerous Mates</U></A>   |   <A HREF="id58.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="General Philosophy Questions"><U>General Philosophy Questions</U></A>   |   <B>Is Marriage Right For You?</b>   |   <A HREF="id63.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Kids: Are You Undecided?"><U>Kids: Are You Undecided?</U></A>   |   <A HREF="id60.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Managing The Money"><U>Managing The Money</U></A>   |   <A HREF="id62.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Opinion/Editorial"><U>Opinion/Editorial</U></A>   |   <A HREF="id56.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Recommended Reading"><U>Recommended Reading</U></A>   |   <A HREF="id26.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Relationship Thoughts/Essays"><U>Relationship Thoughts/Essays</U></A>   |   <A HREF="id61.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Religion and Marriage"><U>Religion and Marriage</U></A>   |   <A HREF="id53.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Sexual Opinions Values"><U>Sexual Opinions & Values</U></A>   |   <A HREF="id24.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Should This Marriage Take Place?"><U>Should This Marriage Take Place?</U></A>   |   <A HREF="id47.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Terror Strikes Home"><U>Terror Strikes Home</U></A></div> <div> </div> </td> </tr><tr> <td valign="top" width=190 BGCOLOR="#CCCCFF" TEXT="#080000" background="04311c00egdysm.gif"> <div> <B>Know the reasons </b><FONT SIZE="5" COLOR="#330099" FACE="Arial" ><B>WHY</b></FONT><B> you're getting married, before taking the final step.</b></div> <bR> </td> <td valign="top" height=370 BGCOLOR="#FFFFFF" TEXT="#080000"> <div> <B>Is Marriage Right For You?</b></div> <div> <B>Copyright (c) 2002  Susan S. Levine, All Rights Reserved</b></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <B>In his book </b><FONT SIZE="3" COLOR="#FF0000" FACE="Arial" ><I><B>Sex Without Guilt</b></I></FONT><B>, first published in 1958, author and psychologist Albert Ellis asked a valid question:  "Why must everyone marry to be a good citizen?"  Obviously, everyone doesn't.   Even in more modern times, however, men and women still have gotten married for the wrong reasons.  And ended up getting a divorce later.</b></div> <bR> <div> <B>If you are thinking of taking wedding vows, whether now or in the near future, stop for a minute.  Are you getting married for any of the reasons given below?  </b></div> <bR> <div> <B>1.  Pressure from traditional family members to marry and have children</b></div> <bR> <div> <B>2.  Fear of negative labeling by your community, church, or society at large</b></div> <bR> <div> <B>3.  Fear of being alone</b></div> <bR> <div> <B>4.  Feelings of being left out, meaning "everyone else is doing it"</b></div> <bR> <div> <B>5.  Only a strong desire to raise a family</b></div> <bR> <div> <B>6.  Unplanned pregnancy</b></div> <bR> <div> <B>7.  A means of escape from unhappy situation</b></div> <bR> <div> <B>8.  Unhappiness with single life</b></div> <bR> <div> <B>9.  Elevated financial status</b></div> <bR> <div> <B>10.  Spite against former flame or current family member</b></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <B>Do any of these sound familiar?  Then think twice.  If this isn't a choice that makes YOU happy, then you are probably making a mistake, which you will end up regretting, possibly sooner rather than later.</b></div> <bR> <div> <B>Despite the widely-held belief that marriage is what everyone should desire for themselves, not all people want to be married.  If you are part of this group, there is nothing wrong or selfish in making the choice to stay single.  Whether you choose this path for a lifetime or only for the next few years, </b><FONT SIZE="3" COLOR="#FF0000" FACE="Arial" ><B>you are just as valuable a person and community citizen being single as being married.</b></FONT><B>  It just might take conservative family members and church communities a bit longer to get the message.</b></div> <bR> <div> <B>  </b><A HREF="index.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="QUESTIONS BEFORE MARRIAGE "><U><B>home</b></U></A></div> <div> <A HREF="id23.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="About Us"><U><B>About Us</b></U></A><B>   |   </b><A HREF="id64.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="ChildFREE By Choice"><U><B>ChildFREE By Choice</b></U></A><B>   |   </b><A HREF="id25.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Contact Us"><U><B>Contact Us</b></U></A><B>   |   </b><A HREF="id55.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Dangerous Mates"><U><B>Dangerous Mates</b></U></A><B>   |   </b><A HREF="id58.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="General Philosophy Questions"><U><B>General Philosophy Questions</b></U></A><B>   |   </b><B>Is Marriage Right For You?</b><B>   |   </b><A HREF="id63.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Kids: Are You Undecided?"><U><B>Kids: Are You Undecided?</b></U></A><B>   |   </b><A HREF="id60.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Managing The Money"><U><B>Managing The Money</b></U></A><B>   |   </b><A HREF="id62.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Opinion/Editorial"><U><B>Opinion/Editorial</b></U></A><B>   |   </b><A HREF="id56.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Recommended Reading"><U><B>Recommended Reading</b></U></A><B>   |   </b><A HREF="id26.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Relationship Thoughts/Essays"><U><B>Relationship Thoughts/Essays</b></U></A><B>   |   </b><A HREF="id61.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Religion and Marriage"><U><B>Religion and Marriage</b></U></A><B>   |   </b><A HREF="id53.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Sexual Opinions Values"><U><B>Sexual Opinions & Values</b></U></A><B>   |   </b><A HREF="id24.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Should This Marriage Take Place?"><U><B>Should This Marriage Take Place?</b></U></A><B>   |   </b><A HREF="id47.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Terror Strikes Home"><U><B>Terror Strikes Home</b></U></A></div> <bR> <bR> <bR> </td> </tr></table></body>